💘 36 Questions to Fall in Love
The famous set — take turns answering, both of you answer every question · 🖨️ Printable deck
Find a quiet place and begin — you'll finish closer than you started
The 36 Questions to Fall in Love, Adapted for Couples
The 36 questions come from psychologist Arthur Aron's research on closeness. The questions are arranged in three sets that move from small talk to vulnerability, and many couples use them as a structured way to feel closer.
You do not need to answer every question in one sitting, and you do not have to answer anything you would rather skip. The point is not to pass a test; it is to create the kind of conversation that everyday life often crowds out.
How to play
- Set aside 45 to 60 minutes without phones or interruptions.
- Take turns reading a question aloud and answering it fully.
- Listen without fixing, judging or rushing to your own answer.
- Pause after each set and notice what surprised you.
Frequently asked questions
Do the 36 questions really make people fall in love?
The study found they increase closeness. They are not a guarantee.
Can we do them over several dates?
Yes. Splitting them into three sessions works well.
Are they only for new couples?
No. Long-term couples often learn something new.
Is there a printable version?
Yes, the printable deck is linked from this page.